Suggested Reading

These are just a few of the books that my clients have found helpful:

For Adults:

• “Divorce Without Disaster,” by Janet Brumley, a book about Collaborative Law
• “Getting to Yes,” by Fisher and Ury, a book about effective negotiation
• “The Custody Revolution: The Motherhood Myth and the Father Factor,” by Richard Warshak, a book about creative ways to structure parenting plans that benefit children
• “The Good Divorce,” by Constance Ahrons, a book about how to eventually turn a very sad event into a new and positive relationship
• “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” by John Gray, Ph.D., a book about the differences between men and women and how best to effectively deal with the opposite sex in negotiations and life
• Children’s Books and Books about divorcing parents: Koko, etc
• “The Collaborative Way to Divorce,” Stu Webb(the creator of Collaborative Law) and Ron Ousky
• “Collaborative Divorce,” Pauline Tesler, J.D. and Peggy Thompson, Ph.D.
• “The Power of a Positive No,” William Ury
• “Getting Past No,” William Ury
• “Difficult Questions Kids Ask (and Are Afraid to Ask) About Divorce,” Schneider and Zuckerberg
• “The Co-Parenting Survival Guide,” Elizabeth Thayer, Ph.D.
• “Storms Can’t Hurt the Sky: A Buddhist Path Through Divorce,” Gabriel Cohen
• “Beyond Reason: Using Your Emotions to Negotiate,” Daniel Shapiro & Roger Fisher
• “Difficult Conversations,” Stone, Patton, Heen & Fisher
• “Crucial Conversations,” Patton and Greeny
• “The Five Love Languages,” Gary Chapman
• “High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes,” William Eddy
• “Powerful Non-Defensive Communication,” Sharon Ellison
• “It’s All Your Fault: 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything,” William Eddy
• “Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist,” William Eddy

For Teens and Children:

• “It’s Not Your Fault, KoKo Bear,” Vicki Lansky
• “Dinosaurs Divorce,” Marc Brown
• “How It Feels When Parents Divorce,” Jill Krementz
• “Families Are Forever! Kids Workbook for Sharing Feelings About Divorce,” Melissa Smith
• “My Parents Are Divorced, Too: A Book for Kids By Kids,” Jan Blackstone-Ford
• “What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced,” William Coleman
• “I Don’t Want to Talk About It,” Jeanie Franz Ransom
• “Dr. Mr. Henshaw,” Beverly Cleary
• “Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way,” M. Gary Neuman
• “Mama and Daddy Bear’s Divorce,” Cornelia Maude Spelman

Online Articles of Interest:

Grading the Negotiation Skills of Congress

Marriage Economy: I Couldnt Afford To Get Divorced

"I just want to leave him, but I can't afford it. Unhappy couples taing together as economy makes divoring too costly." -MSNBC.com

'Friendly' divorce movement gains ground - The Christian Science Monitor

Bringing harmony to divorce - The NY Times

Collaborating On Divorce - Forbes.Com

The Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce - Parents Magazine Online

The Collaborative Approach

The Law Office of S. Camille Milner strongly advocate the Collaborative Law Process. Through the Collaborative Process, the attorneys and other professionals assist the parties in resolving their cases by interest-based negotiation (positive/constructive) rather than position-based negotiation (negative/destructive) without the trauma or expense of “going to court.” This is accomplished by face-to-face meetings where we explore the parties’ interests, goals and options and in a very civilized approach and reach a “win-win” resolution for the parties.

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